We all want it. We all need it. We all crave to have it perfect in our lives. What am I talking about — LOVE! But it seems that the more we crave to see love in our lives the more it seems to elude us. I believe that the real reflection of how much love enters our lives is by how much we love ourselves AND how much love we send out to others. I know you are probably thinking, “but I DO love myself. I think about myself all the time. I want the best for myself, but I seem to be the only one who wants that for me!” I am NOT talking about selfish, self-centered love. This is part of the problem. When we put ourselves first over all others in the simple little things (and the big ones), we are actually telling the world that they don’t count as deeply as the you do. When you put others first in consideration, this sends a telling message. It says your are secure enough in yourself that it doesn’t have to be “all about you”.
Self appreciation, self-love IS about feeling secure about how good and wonderful a person you really are. You KNOW you are worthy of the good things in life. So many of us don’t feel this way. So many of us have bought into the lies they’ve been told by others around them, including their parents as small children, that they weren’t good enough. These are lies. YOU ARE WORTHY. God doesn’t make junk! All HIS creatures are perfect. YOU are NOT the exception to the rule. Even if you’ve been told by many in your life that you weren’t as good as…. your brother, your sister, your best friend, the co-worker in the next cubicle… whatever! It’s all lies. You are perfect in GOD’s eyes. You need to learn to love yourself more. You need to know that the inner person is what makes the outer person quite beautiful in the eyes of others and God.
I feel it is almost impossible to truly love others in the most profound and spiritual way that Jesus loved the world without knowing you, yourself are beautiful, a work-of-art from God’s mastery. Once you “get” that you are a fantastic creation, will you start to have the ability to love others in a powerful self-less way.
So how do you start to love yourself and see yourself as worthy? Start by looking in the mirror and smiling at yourself. Then look yourself in the eyes and say out loud: “YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL”. “YOU ARE LOVED.” “YOU GIVE LOVE AND YOU RECEIVE LOVE NOW”. Do this everyday at least once each day. It will feel strange at first, but trust me, if you stick with it, you will start to see a beautiful loving person in that mirror very quickly after you begin doing this. Watch your world change!